You might find that the thing your partner complains most about not receiving from you, is one of their main love languages. For example, your partner might frequently complain about you being home late. They might get upset when you are away at the weekend with friends or working. You might be busy in different areas of your life and have little time for your partner. It could be that one of your partner’s love languages is quality time.
If one of your partner’s love languages is quality time, and they are not receiving it from you, the chances are that they will feel unloved. They will feel as though you are not thinking about them and what they need.
If they received little quality time as children, this will be even more triggering for your partner. It can re-awaken deep feelings of being unloved, and uncared for. This can cause a You might find that their reaction is bigger than you would expect, because an old wound has been re-opened. This is why it is important to AVOID certain behaviours linked to your partners love language. If you find your partner has been triggered, please know it is not all you, it is also their CHILDHOOD WOUND being triggered. Try to be gentle and loving as you both work out ways you can show them love in the language that resonates most deeply with them.
For quality time, it might mean planning a weekly date night, or a weekend away together. It might be a special meal cooked at home without the TV on so you can really connect deeply with one another. It could be going on a walk, just the two of you, taking time to get a coffee on a Saturday morning or going for a run together.
What most triggers your partner in terms of love language?
What might I avoid in order to show them more love?