A core wound is caused by a painful experience, which shaped how you feel about yourself or the world. It then drives what you believe and how you behave. It impacts your life often without your knowledge, so we are subconsciously acting out the pain of the past.
We need to discover the origins of the pain. It might be a single event, or it might be a way you were treated.
When we avoid the pain, we often end up numbing in some way. It might be overworking, drinking a bit too much in the evening, or just distracting yourself constantly with social media, TV or dating. We all numb in different ways.
Healing usually starts when things come to a head. When you know, you can’t carry on as you are. The pain of your relationships, of your inner world, is too great just to keep on doing what you have been doing. You know something has to change.
This is the perfect time to get some help. Talking about what is happening with someone who is fully there for you and has guided people through these processes is invaluable. It might be a mentor you admire or a therapist. You don’t have to suffer alone. Opening to support might be the best thing you ever do.
Working with the core wound directly, in a supported way, allows us to slowly develop a sense of compassion, rather than the old feelings of being flawed or unloveable. You begin developing a sense of well-being, having healthier relationships, and more positive self-talk, and you can be more fully present in your life. Slowly your life starts to change for the better.
All my love, Jen🌻