When we ask for something, we risk being and feeling rejected. We are vulnerable. To cover that vulnerability, many of us will use anger or force.
How can I ask for what I need and hold onto the part of me that is vulnerable and keep that part safe without using anger or force as a shield?
What boundaries might I need to keep me safe while I have this conversation?
It might sound like, “I’m feeling vulnerable sharing this, so I would love you to pause before you respond.” Or “When we have discussed this topic in the past, we have ended up shouting at each other. I would love that not to happen because I start to feel unsafe.”