I have been asked a lot recently, what does a healthy relationship look like? What are the people who have secure relationships doing? They have learnt, over time, how to balance the ‘we’ and the ‘me’, to repair the inevitable ruptures that come whenever you are in a relationship. Unless we are completely conflict-avoidant, which is unhealthy, there will be disagreements. This is natural. The gold is in the repairing, not in the crack. You might read through this list and notice one or two areas for you both to focus on for the next month. I have found doing relationship work together promotes understanding of one another and intimacy.