Discover - in this phase, we discover the unhelpful patterns we are repeating in our life. It might be a repeating pattern of choosing avoidant partners, of having yet another narcissist in your life, or of having your reality denied. Heal - This is the phase where you take the time to get to the root of the issue, rather than just addressing the symptoms. You will ask, 'What part of me is attracted to an avoidant person?’ And ‘how can I attend to and heal that part of me to break this cycle?' Grow - As you heal, you start to change. You need new boundaries, new goals, and new ways of being in the world that are aligned with this new you. This phase is expansive and exciting, and sometimes a bit scary!