Sometimes it can feel like it is impossible to stop the negative thinking. I know. I have been there. When nothing, like nothing works.
For me, it happens mostly when I am stressed or anxious about a particular topic and my mind is trying to figure it out. The problem is that it is usually something that is unfigureoutable (yes, I just made that word up). So the mind spins and spins out of control thinking that it can figure it out. Well, it can’t.
Have you ever heard the phrase “the mind is a wonderful servant, but a terrible master” (Robin Sharma)? In the West we have learned to revere the mind, we have learnt that the mind is what gets us good grades, and good jobs, it is what we are praised for at school, and often at home too. But has the mind been given too much power, collectively and individually? Can we re-tame that wild tiger that is the mind?
Yes…it can be done, and not only by monks. In baby steps.
One step towards calming the mind is working with your inner child and changing the dialogue.
Our inner talk is powerful. Over time it affects our sense of self. If what you hear in your head is unhelpful, then it might be time to listen to what it is saying and then replace it with a different, more loving voice.
That voice is inside you. It IS you; it is the loving parent that you can be to your inner child.
Remember my rule: If you wouldn’t say it to a real son or daughter, don’t say it to yourself.
This is about healing the critical voice of judgement, self-condemnation and loathing and gently replacing it with a softer, more loving and allowing energy. This is re-parenting and YOU can do it.
If you need help in this process feel free to book a one-on-one session with me, link in bio.
So much love,