Generational patterns repeat through a family because people tend to parent how they were parented. Being the ‘cycle breaker’ in a family is not an easy role. It is often not chosen by the person concerned. It is a deep …
Tag: Self-care
How to Identify YOUR Primary Love Language
A few people have asked me how to discover their primary love language. A lot of people read through the list and think “I love ALL of those!”, why do I just need to choose one or two? In a …
Wanting to Receive Gifts as a Love Language is not Superficial and Materialistic
I have had a lot of questions over the last few days about wanting to receive gifts as a love language. Some people have commented that they feel superficial and materialistic when they express their love language of gift giving. …
When You Don’t Speak Your Partner’s Love Language And It Feels Like An Effort
Maybe your partner wants acts of service. They have told you numerous times that acts of service makes them feel loved, but you find it difficult to give. It is just not something you do to show love. Maybe your …
How to Speak your Child’s Love Language
Children need all five love languages. As a parent you will probably find it easiest to give the ones you like to receive. This can leave the others a little lacking. I love words of affirmation and physical touch, so …
How do I Protect Myself as a Therapist
Do we need protecting from people? Sometimes, I think the answer is definitely yes, and sometimes not. Do I need to protect myself as a therapist? I like to think about this in terms of protective factors. I have been …
Affirmations to Help You Heal After a Breakup
Going through a breakup can be one of the most difficult and painful times. There can be such an overwhelming feeling of disappointment, going over moments and scenes in your head, wondering if you could / should have been different. …
How To Emotionally Prepare For The Election
This is big. I have a number of clients, friends and family in the US who have needed to spend time debriefing their mixed emotions about the impending US election. It is NORMAL to feel confusion, greif and despair. It …
Why Do You Avoid Being Assertive?
There are many reasons people avoid being assertive. I find the two biggest reasons are: ‘The other person will be upset’ (conflict avoidance) and ‘I have no idea how to do it’. Let’s take ‘The other person will be upset’ …