Imagine if your father was a large man and a violent drunk. It might be that whenever you see a man in the street with a similar figure and gait, your body freezes, and you start to panic. A trigger …
Tag: Compassion
Compassion
If you listen long enough, most spiritual teachers will start to talk about the mind as having ‘seeds’. All the ‘seeds’ in the mind have different vibrations. There might be seeds of fear, seeds of self-criticism, seeds of boredom, and …
The Five Components of Compassion
Compassion is an orientation towards suffering. It is how we meet the suffering of others and our suffering. Recognising suffering Understanding the human experience of suffering as universal Emotionally connecting with the other person’s suffering Being able to tolerate uncomfortable …
Compassion is a Function of the Heart
One way to assist compassionate thinking is to imagine what you would want for yourself if you were in someone else’s shoes. Or to imagine what someone else might have gone through and how it might have left them feeling. …
One Way To Work With Your Critical Inner Voice
Did you grow up with critical parents? What were the comments that you heard? Did you get: You look fat in that Nobody cares if you are here or not You always make mistakes You are so clumsy You …
Signs I Am Healing In My Relationships
Ram Dass says that relationships are one of the most challenging forms of yoga. When he says this, he is talking about the way you meet in an intimate relationship. You will see all of the parts of self when …
A ‘Cycle Breaker’ is Someone in your Family Who…
Generational patterns repeat through a family because people tend to parent how they were parented. Being the ‘cycle breaker’ in a family is not an easy role. It is often not chosen by the person concerned. It is a deep …
As a Therapist I Often Experience
Many people wonder why on earth I chose to be a therapist. “Why would you want to sit all day and listen to people’s pain and suffering, life is hard enough as it is!” The funny thing is, listening to …