Seeking Others to Regulate Us.

The opportunity here is to give the younger self the soothing she so desperately wanted and deserved. 

I have been doing Inner Child and ‘parts’ work for over 17 years with myself and others and found it to be one of the most effective tools for self-regulation I know.

Let me know if this resonates,

Love to all,


  • When you have the anxious attachment adaptation, part of you is seeking someone else to regulate you. Healing comes from learning to self-regulate more effectively AND engaging in co-regulation.