Maybe your partner wants acts of service. They have told you numerous times that acts of service makes them feel loved, but you find it difficult to give. It is just not something you do to show love. Maybe your …
Are Your Love Languages What You DIDN’T Receive From One Parent?
60% of you said that your love language was what you DIDN’T receive from your parents as a child (from 120 people on Instagram). I form part of the 40% who said it IS what they received as a child. …
Blocks to Receiving the Five Love Languages
Uncovering your own unconscious blocks to receiving love. Once we know what our love languages are, it is interesting to think about the extent to which we allow love in. For example, we might crave words of affirmation, but when …
Complaints as a Guide to Your Partner’s Love Language
You might find that the thing your partner complains most about not receiving from you, is one of their main love languages. For example, your partner might complain about not feeling noticed, not being told that they are loved, not …
Attuning for Trust
When we are in long distance relationships, the need to attune to one another is even greater. Dr Gottman has a fabulous acronym to remember in all relationships. Often, we have awareness, the first step, but we can struggle with …
Love Language Ideas for Long Distance Couples
Many of you have asked about long-distance relationships, and given the global situation this year, many couples have been separated and actively trying to show love across huge distances. My heart goes out you. I really can’t imagine what it …
What is YOUR Word for 2021
Rather than write a list of intentions for the New Year, I prefer to have a ‘word for the year’ that I can keep referring to. I can refer to it when I am making decisions, and occasionally review the …
A Compassionate Review of YOUR 2020
Socrates in Plato’s Apology was credited with saying “An unexamined life is not worth living”. This is at the core of self-awareness. At this time of the year, I like to do what I call a ‘Compassionate Review’, a kind …
How to Speak your Child’s Love Language
Children need all five love languages. As a parent you will probably find it easiest to give the ones you like to receive. This can leave the others a little lacking. I love words of affirmation and physical touch, so …
What to AVOID when Speaking Your Partner’s Love Language
You might find that the thing your partner complains most about not receiving from you, is one of their main love languages. For example, your partner might frequently complain about you being home late. They might get upset when you …