Have you ever wondered why you end up fighting your partner over and over again about the same thing, a different situation, but the same topic? Let’s take a typical example, money. It might be that in your relationship, you are the saver, and your partner is the spender. When they spend, you feel a lot of judgement; you think they are frivolous, unthoughtful, and ultimately not committed to the relationship. Behind the financial conflict, it is often REALLY about your differing VALUES. Maybe he values expensive cars as a reward for hard work, and you value family holidays as a reward for hard work? Then it’s really about understanding one another’s values to help you come closer together as a couple.