It is normal to have mixed feelings about people we are in a relationship with. When we are in black and white thinking, it might be challenging to accept that we have different feelings about the same person.
When we step back for a moment and consider all the different competing parts of self that you have AND all the different completing parts of the other person, we can begin to understand why relationships can be so confusing.
Integrating these different parts of self and feelings is part of the therapeutic work.
It is moving into more self-acceptance and compassion.
It is the great work.