One of the problems with limerence is the level of self-hatred that often emerges from it. Often you know that you are in a fantasy, but still, feel unable to step out of it. The pain of stepping out of the fantasy is too great.
If I step out and see the truth, what will I have to do? Will I have to leave them? I can’t leave them, I don’t want to. So better to stay in the fantasy.
Remember that relationships are not all or nothing. We CAN step safely out of the fantasy and start to do the work TOGETHER to create something stable, grounded, and intimate for both of you.
The risk of staying in the fantasy is of not seeing what is in front of you and staying in an unhealthy relationship for way too long.
If you have experienced this, I feel you. It’s big to take the risk. Go gently.
Thank you all so much for being here. I appreciate you.
Love, Jen