I have come to understand feelings as messengers from my years of working on myself and with my clients. I often see them as little children, desperately wanting and needing something from me—the bigger the feeling, the stronger the message. …
Category: Wellness
What to Say to Someone with Anxiety
When someone is experiencing anxiety it is easy to say something like, ‘I know how you are feeling. I get anxious before interviews.’ For someone with an anxiety disorder, the anxiety does not just disappear once the event is over. …
Anxiety Disorder V’s Normal Anxiety
Anxiety is a normal result of stress, which impulses to do something to get to safety. In the right situation, it can save our lives. When we can’t turn the anxiety down, it can lead to a generalised anxiety disorder …
Creativity and the Inner Child
This painting is Claude Monet’s ‘The Artist’s Garden at Vetheuil’. It happened to be hanging in a place we stayed in a few years ago, and I spent a good hour lying on the sofa, drinking chai tea and thinking …
Negative Thinking
Sometimes it can feel like it is impossible to stop the negative thinking. I know. I have been there. When nothing, like nothing, works. It happens mostly when we are stressed or anxious about a particular topic and our mind …
Worry is NOT a Love Language
You might have grown up with a caregiver who is constantly worried, not only about you but about other threats too. I have seen this play out in specific cultural groups. Especially groups that have experienced trauma. Trauma might be …
Gaslighting
The term originated from the British writer Patrick Hamilton’s book and movie called Gas Light, in which the husband Gregory manipulates his loving wife, Paula to the point where she no longer trusts her perception of reality. In one scene, …
How Do I Build Self-Trust?
Self-trust has helped me a lot when building resilience. Like being in a relationship with anyone, building trust with yourself, especially if you have a history of abandoning yourself, takes time. You have to prove to yourself, and the inner …
The Cycle Breakers Circle
This is the cycle we all go through on any healing journey. We need to discover where we are stuck and what we inherited from our parents and childhood. Then we need to attend to and heal those wounded parts, …
How Trauma is Transmitted Intergenerationally
Intergeneratioanl trauma is real. Check out this paper “Intergenerational transmission of trauma effects: putative role of epigenetic mechanisms” by Yehuda & Lehrner (2018) for some fantastic research-based insights. Imagine a child growing up in a household with an alcoholic mother. …