5 Things to Ground you In Reality in your Relationship - (to help with limerence) Honesty - Someone who lies isn't trustworthy. Avoid making excuses for their lying. Transparency - Are they open about their life? Have you met their family and friends? Have you seen where they live and work? Accountability - Do they keep promises and do what they say they will do? Values - Do you seem to have similar values? Do they do things that make you question their morals? Being a team - Do you feel that they are looking out for you and thinking about you when they make decisions or that they are only thinking about themselves?