Many of us spend years in confusion, anger, and grief about the mother relationship, trying to understand what happened.
The relationship with the mother, who is usually the primary caretaker, is the first imprint we receive about how to be in intimate relationships. We learn who we are in relationship and who we need to be to get our needs met. This imprint continues into adulthood, affecting ALL our relationships, especially our most intimate ones.
The mother wound might feel so deep and fundamental like it will never be healed. Know that this is NOT true. You can undo the years of criticism, comparison, and neglect. Yes, it takes time, focus and commitment, but you CAN change your inner narrative, your life story, and befriend that wounded part of yourself. You can have secure, intimate relationships and choose to be a different mother or father to your children.
Love on your healing journey, Jen
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We take a deep look at our mother wounds as part of the upcoming Relationship Cycle Breaker Course starting February 3rd. Read more here