No Bad Parts is the name of Richard Schwartz’s book on Internal Family Systems (IFS). In it he describes the foundation of his modality and how it works. All parts need and deserve love, compassion and understanding. They are all …
”Outside-In” Referencing for the Anxiously Attached
If you resonate with this pattern of outside-in referencing, let me know in the comments. It is one of the indications of anxious attachment. love Jen x P.s. If you feel anxious in relationships, I have a book coming out …
The 5 Stages of a relationship
Reminder: it is NORMAL to have conflict in a relationship. Excellent relationship researchers, the Gottman’s, discovered that it was not the number of disputes that determined if a relationship was robust or not, but how the couple resolved the conflict.Notice …
6 Best Trauma Books From A Licensed Therapist
Over the years, I have collected a few – these are the stand-outs. Notice that there is a lot of Peter Levine, the founder of Somatic Experiencing. His books contain deep insight into the nature of trauma and how to …
The Inner Child: The Key to Intimacy, Healing, and Inner Wisdom
“The Inner Child lives within all of us, it’s the part of us that feels emotions and is playful, intuitive, and creative. Usually hidden under our grown-up personas, the Inner Child holds the key to intimacy in relationships, physical and …
This Is for the Self-Healers
This is for the ones who said:“It’s time to do things differently.”“I’m ready to feel, even when it’s hard.” You didn’t wait for permission. You didn’t wait for someone else to change. You chose to heal — for you, and …
Healing Isn’t Linear — It’s a Homecoming
Healing isn’t a straight line. It’s a spiral. A remembering. A return. Some days it feels like progress. Other days, like you’ve gone backwards. But every moment is movement. Every feeling is sacred. Every part of you is welcome. ✨ …
Finding Your Logical Family: How Chosen Family Can Help You Heal
When your biological family caused harm instead of safety, it can take years to untangle the pain. Healing often begins when we find our logical family — the people who see us, love us, and hold us with the care …
Spiritual Awakening and the Afterlife: How Grief Can Open a Path to Purpose
In this deeply moving episode of Psychotherapy Central, I speak with Paul King and Craig McMahon about their personal experiences of spiritual awakening, connection with the afterlife, and how grief can open a path to purpose. Paul shares the story …
Family Secrets: How Carrying a Secret That Wasn’t Yours Can Shape Your Childhood
Did you grow up carrying a secret that wasn’t yours? When a child is asked to hold an adult’s secret — like an affair or a family betrayal — it can fracture their sense of safety, belonging, and play. In …
Reclaiming the Sacred: 10 Journal Prompts to Reconnect with Your Menstrual Cycle
What has your relationship been like with your menstrual flow? Most of us were just taught the biology of our menstrual cycle. What happens inside when hormones shift, an egg is released, and the lining either comes away or remains …
Are You a Cycle Breaker?
You feel it ends with you. Have you ever looked at your family… and felt the quiet knowing: “It ends with me.” You feel things deeply. You ask the hard questions. You see the patterns others couldn’t see — and …
Breaking the Cycle: How Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy Creates a Fresh Start
In every distressed relationship, there are patterns—sequences of behavior that continuously feed the conflict and distance between partners. Identifying these cycles is the crucial first step in therapy. When we recognize these patterns as they occur, we open the door …
How Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy Helps Couples Reconnect
💬 “When couples fight, it’s not just about dishes or who said what. It’s about disconnection—and the longing to feel safe, loved, and understood again.” In this podcast, I explore how Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFCT) uses attachment science to …