Hi! I’m Jen. I’m so glad you’re here.
I’m a licensed clinical psychotherapist, couple counsellor and energetic healer who has developed a unique, integrated, and personalised process for helping individuals and couples heal from attachment adaptations and childhood trauma to foster more secure attachment internally and with those you love. I’m the author of Heal Your Anxious Attachment and the host of the Psychotherapy Central Podcast, where we explore love, attachment and healing trauma.
No Bad Parts – Everything you need to know about Internal Family Systems (IFS)
No Bad Parts is the name of Richard Schwartz’s book on Internal Family Systems (IFS). In it he describes the foundation of his modality and how it works. All parts need and deserve love, compassion and understanding. They are all …
The 5 Stages of a relationship
Reminder: it is NORMAL to have conflict in a relationship. Excellent relationship researchers, the Gottman’s, discovered that it was not the number of disputes that determined if a relationship was robust or not, but how the couple resolved the conflict.Notice …
6 Best Trauma Books From A Licensed Therapist
Over the years, I have collected a few – these are the stand-outs. Notice that there is a lot of Peter Levine, the founder of Somatic Experiencing. His books contain deep insight into the nature of trauma and how to …
Relationship Rituals to Help with Connection
As a couple counsellor and wife of 18 years, I know that intimacy doesn’t just happen. It has to be cultivated. There are so many different ways to let your partner know that they are special, that you are thinking …
Caregiving and Complicated Family Dynamics
There are 53 million Americans who are caregivers; 89% care for a relative or partner, with women representing 75% of all caregivers. A common dilemma sounds something like this, ‘my mum was abusive to me. Yes, we had a roof …
Tips For The 5 Relationship Stages
As a couple therapist, I see people repeatedly move through all of these stages. If you do this well, you build an increasingly solid foundation for your relationship. Sometimes, however, we get stuck in the struggle and repair phase, especially …
10,000 Hours
I did a back-of-the-envelope calculation to work out how many hours of trauma therapy I had done in my career. The answer is about 15,600 hours. The interesting thing is that I am not burnt out. I LOVE what I …
Anger and Grief
As a trauma therapist, I have sat with clients for about 15,600 hours and held anger (back of a napkin calculation).I have sat with myself and held my anger.Anger is often protective – when we talk to anger, it will …
The Embody Lab
I saw this pop up on the embody lab offering list and wanted to share it with you. In today’s busy, goal-oriented, demanding environment, many of our bodies carry unreasonable stress. Somatic Stress Release™ is a holistic system to enhance …
Spiritual Life
If you like the research – check out this paper: Neuroanatomical Correlates of Religiosity and Spirituality
What Do You Choose?
I had to study a foreign language at school as a GCSE in the British education system until I was 16. I studied German because I missed a year of French when I moved schools and was too far behind. …
The Scientifically Proven Method for Achieving Your Goals
“Imagery is about the next thing you can do to help the future you” – Dr Jonathan Rhodes Jo and Jon have used FIT to train Olympic athletes, special military forces, and top CEOs around the globe. Check out this …
How Do You Know When To Let Go of a Relationship?
Have you ever experienced the confusion and struggle of not knowing whether you should stay or leave a relationship? The part that wants to stay might see the good in your partner or be afraid of being alone or scared …